Learn about your money story

Unlock the Power of Your Money Story

April 07, 20246 min read

"Rich people believe 'I create my life.' Poor people believe 'Life happens to me.'" - T. Harv Eker

You've got a secret story about money that's quietly guiding all your money decisions. What if I told you that changing a simple shift in this story could help you make more money, spend it smarter, and be better at investing.

Your "money story" is like a big, invisible book that holds all your thoughts and feelings about money. It tells you how to use your money, what jobs to pick, and how you feel about saving or spending. This story comes from things you learned when you were younger, and it sticks with you, guiding what you do with money today.

Your Money Story and your Beliefs

Changing the Story: You're the Author!

Here's a secret: You can change this story! I'm going to share how you can do just that. 👊

One of my money stories growing up was that more money equals more loneliness. I grew up in a family that was middle class and very comfortable. We weren't super rich, but we did have things like a swimming pool (even though it was too cold to use most of the time in Colorado!). My mom worked really, really hard in her job, and because of that, she wasn't around much. I remember asking her why she had to work so much, and she said it was so we could have nice things like that pool. Right then, I started to believe that having money means you can't spend time with the people you love. That made me sad and made me think that maybe having a lot of money was bad and it meant being alone.

Money Is Just... Money

As I got older, I realized money is just a thing, and it's the stories we tell ourselves about money that make us feel happy or sad, scared or excited.

Breaking Free from Money Myths

I also used to think that you had to work super hard to get money because that's what my parents did. But that idea kept me from seeing all the other ways you could make money. Once I started to question that thought and explore, that's when I remembered my grandmother getting checks in the mail every month from tenants. That curiosity opened up my mind to learn about real estate investing, where you don't have to work all the time to get paid.

The Real Game of Money

So, if you think too much money means not enough family time, or that making money is always super hard work, you might start to think money is bad. And if you think like that, it's going to be really tough to make more money or save it.

Learning and Growing

Over time, I learned that making money doesn’t have to be hard. Making money can even be easy, like when people make money from renting out houses they own. The best way to start understanding your money story is to ask yourself simple questions about your first memories of money.

Money Doesn't Weigh You Down

Money stories are always just about not having enough money or wanting more money. For example, I have a client who grew up with a lot of money, but she felt bad about it because it made her feel different from everyone else. She thought of her money like a heavy backpack she had to carry around all the time.

You're in Charge: Rewrite Your Story

But here's the deal: Money doesn't have to mean hard work or the loss of relationships. Exploring things like real estate investing showed me that money can indeed work for you, not against you. Recognizing money is a skill set, that can be learned was empowering, just like getting better at playing golf or drawing. 

Money doesn't solve all problems—it doesn't mend self-worth issues or personal insecurities. 

The Fun Side of Money

Money is part of this game called life, and learning the rules can help you win. It's not about finding a magic trick to get rich quick. It's about learning, doing, and making it fun!

Some people think it's evil  to make a lot of money, but that's not true. Making money means you can help more people. If you're worried about making money, try to think about all the good things you can do with it.

Your Next Steps

So, how do you start changing your money story? First, think about what you believe about money. Are these beliefs really true? Do they help you? Then, create new, better stories. Learn as much as you can about making and managing money. Find something you love doing that can also make you money. It doesn't feel like work if you love it, and you can help people, too.

Keep Growing 

My journey leads me to all different kinds of passions;  real estate, podcasting, and blogging—ventures I love to do alongside my career in software development. These pursuits are not just income streams but avenues for growth, learning, and fulfillment. The key is to stay curious, keep learning, and constantly question and refine your money story.

Conclusion 

Your money story is not just about finances; it's a reflection of your deepest beliefs and fears. By confronting and reshaping your money stories, you open the door to a life of abundance, freedom, and joy. Remember, no one can compete with you on being uniquely you. Discover what excites you, what feels like play to you, and start your journey to transform your financial scripts and, with it, your life.

It's clear that we have the power to change the script. Changing your money story isn't just about adding more zeros to your bank account; it's about rewriting the core beliefs that shape your relationship with money. This transformation has the power to not only enhance your financial well-being but also to enrich your life in ways you've never imagined.

So, what's the first step on this exciting journey? It begins with you and a pen.

1. Write the story you currently tell about yourself. Dive deep and be honest. What are the money beliefs you’ve  been holding in your life? Recognize them, acknowledge them, but most importantly, understand that they are just stories—not necessarily truth. 

2. Write the story you want to tell about yourself. Dream big here. Imagine a world where money flows freely in your life. What does this new story look like? How does it feel to live within it? This is your chance to script your future in the most vibrant colors imaginable.

3. Write an ACCOMPLISHMENT LOG. This is where you start building evidence for your new story. Every small win, every moment of financial wisdom, jot it down. Saved a little extra this month? Write it down. Made a smart spending decision? It goes in the log. This log will serve as a tangible reminder of your progress, empowering you to keep moving forward.

Changing your money story is a profound act of self-love and empowerment. It's about reclaiming your scripts and realizing that you have the power to shape your financial future. Each step you take, each story you rewrite, brings you closer to the freedom you deserve.

Remember, every great journey begins with a single step. Let today be the day you take that step, armed with your pen, your courage, and your incredible capacity for change. The new chapter awaits, and it's one where you're the hero of your own financial story. Let's Go.

Legal Disclaimer: This content is not financial advice and is for informational purposes only. Always consult with a qualified financial professional before making any financial decisions.

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